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My husband and I met but it took my 3 yr old to get us together!
Posted on Dec 22nd, 2008
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Tori
Tori
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for December 22, 2008:
I actually remember the first time Steve and I met quite clearly. I had just gotten out of a really bad abusive relationship with my ex-husband. It had taken months, but things were starting to work out. I had been volunteering at my local DHHS in hopes of getting a job there, and on September 8th 2003 I was hired.
That night I went to visit a friend named Matt. When I dropped my son off with my sister I really didn't expect anything to come of the evening, and I had no idea that I was about to find myself in a whirlwind romance! When I got to Matt's house one of hs friends I had never met was over. He introduced himself as Steve and smiled. I liked him instantly, but said nothing.
We talked for three hours while Matt played some war game (boring) on the console. He was drinking at the time, which I was slightly worried about, but seemed very calm and happy go lucky. He put his hand on my knee, and instead of pudhing him away as I normally would have done, I let it rest there. Eventually, Steve left, and I was actually sad to see him go.
The next morning Matt called me aside and asked what I had thought of Steve. After hearing that I thought he was cute but was worried about getting into another relationship so soon, Matt and another friend Nicole took matters into their own hands. They would invite us both over in the next few weeks without telling us the other would be there. Then one day, Matt said he wanted to play with my son Tim.
Meanwhile, Nicole had told Steve to come over. When I showed up he was already there. I was talking to Nicole, who had just learned she was pregnant with her first child and was very excited, while Timmy played on the floor with his cars. Eventually, Timmy walked over to Steve and said hi, and Steve played with him for about half an hour. In that time my esteem for him grew!
It was a couple of weeks later when everything finally came together though. I was on my way to the store one day. It was only a few blocks away so Timmy and I thought we'd walk down and grab some juice. Matt saw us and asked Steve to run to the store for him. When he ran into us he picked Timmy up and carried him. Timmy was in heaven!!
When it came time for Timmy and I to leave the store, I said bye to Steve, but Timmy wouldn't have that. He let go of my hand, ran to Steve and started clinging to his leg, screaming "Mine." I swear people thought I was trying to kidnap my own son.
Steve actually carried Timmy all the way home for me to cut off the tantrum. I invited him up for coffee, and we were an item within the hour! He proposed to me in January, I accepted, and in August 2004 we were wed!
That night I went to visit a friend named Matt. When I dropped my son off with my sister I really didn't expect anything to come of the evening, and I had no idea that I was about to find myself in a whirlwind romance! When I got to Matt's house one of hs friends I had never met was over. He introduced himself as Steve and smiled. I liked him instantly, but said nothing.
We talked for three hours while Matt played some war game (boring) on the console. He was drinking at the time, which I was slightly worried about, but seemed very calm and happy go lucky. He put his hand on my knee, and instead of pudhing him away as I normally would have done, I let it rest there. Eventually, Steve left, and I was actually sad to see him go.
The next morning Matt called me aside and asked what I had thought of Steve. After hearing that I thought he was cute but was worried about getting into another relationship so soon, Matt and another friend Nicole took matters into their own hands. They would invite us both over in the next few weeks without telling us the other would be there. Then one day, Matt said he wanted to play with my son Tim.
Meanwhile, Nicole had told Steve to come over. When I showed up he was already there. I was talking to Nicole, who had just learned she was pregnant with her first child and was very excited, while Timmy played on the floor with his cars. Eventually, Timmy walked over to Steve and said hi, and Steve played with him for about half an hour. In that time my esteem for him grew!
It was a couple of weeks later when everything finally came together though. I was on my way to the store one day. It was only a few blocks away so Timmy and I thought we'd walk down and grab some juice. Matt saw us and asked Steve to run to the store for him. When he ran into us he picked Timmy up and carried him. Timmy was in heaven!!
When it came time for Timmy and I to leave the store, I said bye to Steve, but Timmy wouldn't have that. He let go of my hand, ran to Steve and started clinging to his leg, screaming "Mine." I swear people thought I was trying to kidnap my own son.
Steve actually carried Timmy all the way home for me to cut off the tantrum. I invited him up for coffee, and we were an item within the hour! He proposed to me in January, I accepted, and in August 2004 we were wed!
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